The Lies She Told

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Social justice is about destroying systematic marginalisation and privilege. Wishing to live in a more just, more equal world is simply not the same thing as wishing to live in a “nicer” world. I am not suggesting niceness is bad or that we should not behave in a nice way towards others if we want to! I also do not equate niceness with cooperation or collaboration with others. Here’s all I am saying: the conflation of ethical or just conduct (goodness), and polite conduct (niceness) is a big problem.

Plenty of oppressive bullshit goes down under the guise of nice. Every day, nice, caring, friendly people try to take our bodily autonomy away from us (women, queers, trans people, nonbinaries, fat people, POC…you name it, they just don’t think we know what’s good for us!). These people would hold a door for us if they saw us coming. Our enemies are not only the people holding “Fags Die God Laughs” signs, they are the nice people who just feel like marriage should be between a man and a woman, no offense, it’s just how they feel! We once got a very nice comment on this site that we decided we could not publish because its content was “But how can I respect women when they dress like – sorry to say it, pardon my language – sluts?”. This is vile, disgusting misogyny and no amount of sugar coating and politeness can make it okay. Similarly, most of the people who run ex-gay therapy clinics are actually very nice and polite! They just want to save you! Nicely! Clearly, niceness means FUCK ALL.

The Revolution Will Not Be Polite: The Issue of Nice versus Good - (via varldslighet)

I feel like this concept is pretty vital to Good Reason News as well.

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Courtesy is something that is earned, and you will not earn it by oppressing someone. And fyi, treating someone as a person, not using sexist/racist/homophobic/transphobic/ableist slurs, and/or using the correct gender identiy for others is a requirement, not a courtesy.

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Like I said “politeness” and tone policing is simply insisting being violent, insulting and hateful in a polite way is somehow acceptable.

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I enjoy controlled loneliness. I like wandering around the city alone. I’m not afraid of coming back to an empty flat and lying down in an empty bed. I’m afraid of having no one to miss, of having no one to love.

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The media loves to divide women into virgins and vamps. Angels or whores. Let’s not encourage them.

Stella Gibson, The Fall. (via wherehaveallthescullysgone)

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I’m not afraid to fall in love, I’m just afraid of hitting the ground when its over.

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I’m still trying to get up

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Be so happy that when others look at you they become happy too.

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If whats happening in Ferguson was happening to an all white community, it would be called a dystopian novel

#and all actions against the police would be heroic and daring#and the plucky white protags would be encouraged to use violence to stop the injustice

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If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other more gently, with more love, tolerance and care.

Marvin. J. Ashton (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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people be like “are you really going to miss out on a potential friendship just because someone doesnt share your views on feminism/racism/etc.” and i’m like “ya lol”

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found the best twitter 

I was angry until i read the tweets

I didn’t know there were so many ways to spell femisism

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Being white means never having to think about it.

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This is a great comeback for all of that “I don’t see race.” BS


Tweet by @chefnegro says: “White people wanna talk about ‘I don’t see race.’ YOUR ANCESTORS CREATED THE SOCIAL CONSTRUCT OF RACE SO BITCH YOU BETTER SEE IT.”




This is a great comeback for all of that “I don’t see race.” BS


Tweet by @chefnegro says: “White people wanna talk about ‘I don’t see race.’ YOUR ANCESTORS CREATED THE SOCIAL CONSTRUCT OF RACE SO BITCH YOU BETTER SEE IT.”


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I keep seeing people whining about how they want a Korean name and okay thing is

The reason why Korean people get English names is because essentially, they want a better job and because they want to assimilate. All countries who have been former colonies have this mindset (which I think is a tragedy and personally a wrong idea but) that the reason why we were colonized is because we fell behind the times. Consequently I see an added drive to fit in, to assimilate to the dominant culture.

So for example Korean kids get English names in English hagwons because that is a way of assimilating yourself into the primarily English-speaking culture. Seunghwan is a harder name to pronounce for English speakers than say, Samuel (this is not counting the numerous Catholic people I have met who have Catholic names like Regina, Phillip, etc) for people whose first language is English. It also makes it look more “professional” when you are applying to schools overseas.

This mechanism works similarly for those people who have English names for business reasons. An example can be the lawfirm Taepyungyang, which means the pacific ocean in Korean, who has changed their English name to Bae, Kim & Lee, which are last names in Korean and is a form of naming a law firm that Westerners tend to use. This is to appeal to the foreign market, look again, more “professional” and “appealing”, which is in essence assimilating to globalization led by western forces.

Therefore this is literally people obeying the balance of power as is. People getting Korean names is a bit dofferent, you are doing it because it’s a “cool” thing and a way to accessorize, rather than because you HAVE to in order to get better jobs, etc because lemme tell you, having an English name in Korea does not hinder you professionally.

So no, it’s not the same thing and please just shut up.

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